Poem on a Sunday


I thought that painting would be a good task today to keep my mind occupied–it turns out painting’s quite the opposite. It is methodical in a lovely way, but it’s also a large chunk of uninterrupted, alone time. Not really what I was looking for. But it was sunny and beautiful outside, the dogs were napping away, Gillian Welch was playing on my ipod speakers, I made a really foamy latte, and started priming…and that’s how today played out.

It was a nice break from sad phone calls, and talks and planning regarding Jean’s service. I’m so looking forward to being surrounded by Jean’s friends and family and all sitting around and finding comfort in one another. I’m looking forward to meeting her dear girlfriend Lauren, and giving her mom Ann a really, really long hug. I’m also terrified for the service to be over. Because-then what?

Last night, I was digging through some old notes and things that Jean gave me over the past 15 years–and I came across Mary Oliver’s book of poetry, New and Selected Poems (vol.1). In it, there’s a poem called “The Summer Day.”

It is, my dearly missed Jean, encapsulated. It is, I think, about living life vividly, sensuously, knowing what’s really important (fun and adventure), and being truly present and ALIVE. Jean lived this, and through her example, taught us to strive for this in our own “wild and precious life.”

So with promises of future snickerdoodles and fall soups–for now, I leave you with this:

The Summer Day
~Mary Oliver

Who made the world?
Who made the swan, and the black bear?
Who made the grasshopper?
This grasshopper, I mean–
the one who has flung herself out of the grass,
the one who is eating sugar out of my hand,
who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down–
who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes.
Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face.
Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away.
I don’t know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?

Comments

  1. Chow and Chatter

    be strong hope the service is lovely

  2. Mardi @eatlivetravelwrite

    Another lovely post. Hang in there.

  3. Chez Danisse

    Jean selected a wonderful book and you chose a beautiful poem to share with us.

    That last question in the poem...intense, yet necessary--good.

  4. Molly

    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's a lovely poem.

  5. Megan Gordon

    Thanks for the comments, ladies. Glad you enjoyed the poem. I actually heard it for the first time in a yoga class and I caught my breath in the middle of my down-dog. I find it really powerful. You're right, Denise. Intense, yet necessary.

  6. Amelia PS

    oh wonderful: Maru Oliver is one of my all time favorite poets!!!

  7. Laurie B. Ludmer

    I woke up extremely early this morning, when I fell out of a dream. It was my great fortune to run across your journal and Mary Oliver's poem. It seems to me that her poems are clear mirrors for us to see the wonder and beauty of living. For that, I thank her and thank you for posting it.

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